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About
the Author and His Writings
by DrJim
Who am I, and what are my qualifications to write about the
topic of inducing lactation apart from the usual
situation of nursing an infant, and the concept
of nursing in the setting of an adult
relationship? I am a male physician. I have been
practicing medicine for 27 years. I am in Family
Medicine, Emergency Medicine and Preventative
medicine. I am interested in the current
research on ways to slow down the aging process.
I love to teach and have done some writing,
lectures and seminars. I have many other
interests as well.
Concerning the concept of ANR (Adult Nursing Relationship)
and how I came to be interested in it; A few
years ago two young women that worked in my
office came to me and asked my opinion, is it
possible that taking certain herbs can enlarge
their breasts? They had seen some things on the
Internet and the David Letterman show. I
answered that I did not know for sure, but that
I doubted that herbs could have that potent of
an endocrine effect. They promptly went out and
had breast augmentation surgeries. That got me
interested in finding out more about herbs and
their effects. I researched various herbs and
the claims and concluded to my surprise there
are herbs that have much more potent effects on
the endocrine system that I had thought
possible. I developed a little line of herbal
formulas primarily for hormonal balancing. My
patients loved them as an alternative to drugs
in some situations. In researching the herbal
effects of breast enlargement invariably I came
upon the closely related topic of lactation
induction. It just happens that many of the
things women might try to do to stimulate and
enlarge their breasts, other than surgery, may
induce lactation since that is what breasts were
designed to do in the first place. I have
learned much about the induction of lactation
from a medical view. In addition to my training
in medical school, I have had quite a bit of
experience in my medical practice. Over the
years issues related to this concept have come
up quite a few times. I have delved more deeply
into the subject through studying Neurology,
Endocrinology, Obstetrics, Gynecology, Drugs and
Herbs.
The subject of ANR is a bit of a Taboo subject in our
society and medical circles as well. I have
found that there are no good authoritative texts
written about the subject. It is probably best
addressed by La Leche League, founded to support
women in their experience of breast feeding
infants. The knowledge base of this concept
appears to be more of an oral tradition passed
among Midwifes and Doulas based on their
clinical experience. I have great respect for
these professionals and their experience. My
attempt through my writing here is to bring a
little different perspective to the subject
based on my medical understanding and
experience. Hopefully this will broaden
understanding of the concept of ANR and related
issues overall.
This subject delves into areas so intimate and personal
that in some areas I feel they are almost sacred
and should not be discussed. Some people may be
offended by it. There is much prejudice,
distortion and misunderstanding in our society
about it. I want to have the freedom to write
from my heart in many areas. What I write is my
opinion only. I do not want any person to refer
to me as an authority on the subject and quote
me or refer to me to support what they might
say. On the other hand I do not want others who
claim to have authority on the subject to ask me
for my studies and clinical research to support
what I write. From a medical point of view, I
write as I understand the way our wonderful
bodies are designed to work. There are some who
may challenge my understanding of some medical
point of view. To be honest I have come to my
own conclusions in some areas and do not always
agree with the general medical view. Why don’t
I write a book? Because I do not think it would
be accepted today in our society. I certainly
would not want to have to defend myself against
critics. I prefer to have a bit of anonymity
thus I have chosen this forum.
The reader must understand also that I have conservative
views on relationships and my writings reflect
this. I believe that an ANR is finely expressed
in the setting of a strong, committed
relationship between a man and a woman. The
concept is all about relationship, relationship
first. I have found that many married couples
have discovered this corner of the garden of
their relationship and have delighted in it. It
has been a secret that they have shared, bonding
them close together. It is hard for people to
understand the intimacy, bonding and the
immersion of the male and female attributes that
the couple bring to this experience. Singles
outside of committed relationships and those
that try alternative relationships I think, are
destined to not experience the fullness and deep
fulfillment that is potentially there.
What does a female desire in a relationship that an ANR can
enhance? First they desire the security of
commitment, fidelity and love. They want to be
desired and the only female in his affections.
They want intimacy and to experience his
masculinity. Women as a general rule do not
desire casual sex because engaging in such an
intimate act can result in a lifetime of
repercussions if she were to get pregnant etc.
In the same way embarking on an ANR requires a
level of commitment, sharing, bonding and
co-dependency that a casual relationship cannot
meet. Women love to be gorgeous and to be
passionately desired. Men are quickly aroused
visually and most women love to display
themselves in the setting of a secure
relationship when they are comfortable with
their bodies. It is fundamental to the female
nature to desire to nurture, care for and bond
with another, which is brought out in her
relationship with her newborn. I believe women
find the deepest fulfillment when they have
these feelings and are able to fulfill them. An
ANR of course increases her feelings and desires
to nest and nurture because of the way it
influences her hormones and her partner becomes
the focus of them. An ANR brings more of all
these things to the relationship when it is
committed, strong and secure.
What does a male desire in a relationship that an ANR can
enhance? He is aroused visually and enjoys all
the pleasures that this increased exposure
bring. There is something special about the act
of uncovering the breast. He loves the
unconditional love, acceptance and attention
that an ANR inevitably brings out in her.
Nurturing, cuddling and nesting are all female
behaviors that men find irresistible and
enduring. Men universally want to experience her
femininity, as much as they possibly can,
exploring it is fundamental to the male psyche.
All of these things come to him in increased
amounts when he loves to commit to her the
emotional security and endurance that she
craves. Also, there is mystery in it not fully
understood!
For these reasons I believe an ANR flourishes best in the
setting of a committed relationship between a
man and a woman. If the reader disagrees with my
view, I hope they shall accept this and explore
what I have written with an open mind.
DrJim
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